Priorities

Excuse the recycled post that I hope Nina from The Grand Adventures of Me doesn't mind me reusing :) I figured with the chaos of my schedule and school and my schedule and school and so on and so forth... that maybe I should start scheduling posts! I'm going to try to do more of this at least :)
So here is my post titled Priorities:

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“I had this guy leave me a voice mail at work, and so I called him at home, and he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies. It’s exhausting.”
-Drew Barrymore in He’s Just Not That Into You

Can I get an amen?!

When you're using online dating as a way to meet a significant other, you've gotta have your priorities in line.
I personally suggest that you have yourself figured out before you start figuring out your perfect guy.

Does he love Jesus?

Is marriage something he wants? If yes, how soon?

Will he be a hopeless romantic by providing that romance you desire?

Does he work in a satisfying career?

Does he value his family?

Was his home-life as a child difficult or easy?

Is he passionate towards something meaningful?

These are all great questions to consider, but you've got to answer same questions for yourself!

Are you in a good relationship with Jesus and will you be able to share that with your date?

Do you want to eventually get married? If yes, when?

Is romance important to you? Do you request every door to be opened and flowers on occasion?

Do you work in a satisfying career or are you doing something (going to school) in order to eventually work in that career?

Do you value your family, and do you want the other person to value theirs?

Was your home-life difficult as a child? If so, would you need some counseling?

Are you passionate towards anything? Would you feel comfortable telling others about it?

We put this HUGE responsibility on the men to hold up their end of the deal, when sometimes we don't even know much about ourselves! Before you begin online dating, or dating in general... make sure you know a general idea of what you want out of the relationship. 

What's most important to you?

Maybe you feel like romance isn't necessarily important compared to family values.

And let's face it, we change our minds as much as we change our underwear (hopefully) and your priorities may change from time to time.

One thing that you should have developed by the age of 20 would be the number one priority. If your number one priority changes multiple times, you may have issues. You've got to have something to build a foundation on. Personally, mine is Jesus. Although, I have from time to time strayed and made bad decisions, He always lets me back.

How I feel

For years and years I have wanted to hear certain words said to me..but not from my momma, my daddy, my family members, or my best friends, but from a man I loved and cared for. I have heard these words from boys I thought I had cared for and was infatuated with. But now it's different.

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Recently, even in the chaos, I have felt beautiful. Not because someone told me so. I have been confident in myself that I am beautiful. I know that there is a God who loves me more than I could ever imagine. Even the fake love that made me happy in the recent past, couldn't compare to the feeling I get when I pray. I know He is there for me.

I also am so overwhelmed with the love of my friends and family. Even though there is still much anger and frustration, I have had the biggest support system!! Even from you lovers! I am BARELY making time to type this, and you are still here for me. I can't get over how close I've come to you all :) It makes me super happy!!

But I am talking to someone ..again. I'm sure you're thinking, my goodness does she ever give herself any time? The answer is no, I don't.

The guy I'm chatting with is actually a guy I was getting to know shortly before Samoa douchebag, and I actually had told this current dude that I didn't want to lead him on because I saw that things with douchebag were getting "serious" and he totally understood. So when he saw me back on POF (yes I downloaded it back)He messaged me to ask if I was ok. That was his first question. He asked me about what happened with the guy I was seeing and I gave him a brief description.. didn't explain it all..that'd be too much.

My momma, she told me don't worry about your size <3
This is my jam!!!





Love ya'll always!! I promise I'll try to get on here more, but right now it's really hard :(

Grad Student Love

What do you do when you aren't attracted to the dudes in your class?
You download Tinder back onto your phone in hopes to find someone to keep your mind distracted from being so bored.

Hey, a girl can dream right?

By the way, when you're in grad school with only 13 other people in your program, you have every class with the SAME 13 people. Not much selection anyway. 2 old dudes and 2 dorks that I would never find myself interested in.. lame. The rest are women, of course.

I'm excited about working with these people, but as far as finding my future soulmate, not happening through my classes.

However, I have a scholarship position on campus & the Grad Assistant in the office is quite my type. I'm not sure what his situation is, I only got to see him for about 30 minutes during orientation.

Ginger Beard is back..uhm yay. He's so weird. I actually have 2 active ginger beards. The original GB and I met up for a few minutes just to chat while I was in town last week. I was at the mall (where he works) while he was working and we were going to get lunch, but he couldn't take his break for another hour and I was starving. I wait for no one. We've been texting on and off every other day or so since.. nothing exciting at alllll!

The other GB, is actually a guy I talked to for a while last year and reallllyyy started to fall for him. He was the perfect type of guy I was looking for at the time (before I applied to go back to school or even thought about going back). He just so happened to send me a picture on snapchat TWO DAYS after the Samoa incident. HOW DOES HE KNOW!? They have like single-telepathy. They find out when their past interests end a relationship without any logical reason! He doesn't have access to any of my social media, yet he decides to contact me ..on that day?! How in the world? But he has his own story that needs it's own post. I don't have a nickname for him yet..I'll think of one soon and write a post :)

So that's my life right now. The $100 giveaway closed, and I think the winner will be announced tomorrow. I have missed this blog and my bloggy friends sooo much. I promise now that I've got my new laptop.. I will be sooo much better :) I see a lot of procrastination coming soon which means.. more blogging!!

Love you all!!!

Third Thursday// v.3

I think the best way to laugh is by remembering these horrible dates... yes, plural, as in more than one.

I honestly need to laugh right now, and this link-up arrived just in time this month!
I would love to hear some of your bad date stories! Link up with us!!

This one time a guy I had met through Christian Mingle said that he had a special talent. He said that he could sing, and other people tell him alllll the time that he was so good and needed to try out for American Idol or something. He then proceeded to show me his YouTube channel. I really wish I didn't have to be so confidential, because I would TOTALLY link his "music" videos. He.was.horrible.

The video he sent me was of him singing "Strangely Dim" by Francesca Battistelli. Why this song? I have no idea. So, I felt terrible for the guy and I agreed to let him take me out to dinner one day. He drove about 3 hours and took me to dinner. It was okay, but I totally wasn't feeling it.

I felt comfortable enough to have him come watch a Redbox movie at my apt (no worries my brother was there so we weren't alone). Then after the movie he tells me that he is too tired to drive home and asks if he can stay the night...wtf really?

I made him sleep in his car. I was not letting someone stay overnight INSIDE my apt. Are you insane?! You don't just invite yourself to stay the night. So the next morning he had to knock on my apt door to ask me to go to breakfast. Morning breath was HORRIBLE and after breakfast he tried to kiss me. No thanks...buh bye. Be on your merry way!