Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Destroyed

Just a warning, this post contains heavy cursing.


I'm sick and tired of being treated like a piece of shit. I have been lied to every single time I've been in a relationship. But, I've never been hurt like this before. I've participated in a couple posts concerning "Being a Side Chick" well now I can officially say, I was one for the past 2 months.

He met my entire fucking family. He made my parents fall in love with him. He made ME fall in love with him. He lied to me about EVERYTHING. I was ready to support him and be there for him no matter what. Then, the truth came out this weekend.

I hate him.

He's married & has 2 children.. I knew about the children but he had told me that the mother of those children died in a car wreck... Lie.

His current wife, who is still very much alive and breathing, is the mother of those children. Found this bit of information last night, thanks to good ole Facebook.

I told him I never want to hear from him or see him again. If he shows up on my porch I will call the cops. He said he understood and I hung up the phone.

This wouldn't be so bad if he hadn't involved my family. He should have told me ALL of this before I took him to a veryyyy personal part of me.

My uncle found a video. This is what brought it all up. MY UNCLE!! Now my whole family knows. The video explained how he's a loving father and husband, blah blah bullshit.


Here's what I plan on doing:
Moving on. 


I have way too much shit in my life to worry about dating, or worry about his sorry ass. Yes, I am hurt, my heart has ached all weekend long and I couldn't sleep at all last night. I'll probably end up buying some benadryl or something to help me sleep because I need it this week. School starts in just 2 weeks, I need to rest.

I have a lot of the typical questions running around in my head, but I know that I need to just ignore them and move on. Stop dwelling on it. It happened and it was all a lie. I'm done. Fuck you Samoa.

35 comments:

  1. What a complete asshole! I am so sorry Ellie :( My heart breaks for you. We can slash his tires if you want ;)

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  2. OMG he is an asshole!!! I will go break his windows since Nina is slashing his tires. We shall take care of it.

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  3. Wow. I can't even imagine how you feel right now! So sorry girl!

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  4. He will get his karma. I pitty his wife and kids and I hate that there is so much evil that counteracts with love in this world. Ur one of the most amazing people I know. And ull pull thro because ur strength is more than most people have combined.

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  5. OH MY GOD. What an asshole! I would probably kick his ass and make his life hell, but it's better to move on and take this as an experience.

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  6. Krista KetterhagenAugust 12, 2014 at 12:53 PM

    What the F?????? I know it is completely redundant, but you are WAY better than that! What f-ing asshole!!! I hate him for you and if you need some encouragement or text love, you know where to find me. Love you lady and don't let a complete asswipe like that get the best of you, you are way too good to be treated like that!

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  7. OMG, I am SO SO mad!!!! Take some hcore you time!!!

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  8. Took me a minute to realize who this was. I love you so much sis!! I may need a Joe trip this Sunday.

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  9. This is so so awful. No one is deserving of this kind of treatment. What a scumbag! I can't believe he would do that to you, especially with your family. I'm so so sorry!

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  10. Oh my goodness! I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better but all I can say is that I am so sorry. Hopefully his wife finds out what a jack off he is and ditches his butt as well!

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  11. Oh my word! I cannot believe this! No one deserves this. I am so sorry, and I wish that there was something I could say to make this better. Unfortunately, on time can do that. Hang in there girl!

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  12. Girl, I am so sorry you had to go through this but stay strong and power on! You don't need that kind of yuck in your life.

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  13. I am in shock! WTF!! I am so sorry hun to hear this! Ughhh I want to find him and slap him so hard he will not even remember his own name. I can't believe he had the audacity to hold on to such a HUGE lie for that long. I know this may not make you feel better, but at least now you know that he wasn't the one for you. I know FB showed me a guy I went on one date with was indeed married and he was so dumb that he didn't even hide the profile! Guys are so stupid!!!

    I think you are on the right track to move on and I know you're hurt and rightly so, but you will find someone who will be completely honest with you and won't be a douchetard like this one. I'm here for you if you need anything!!! ***Sending many hugs***

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  14. Ugh. That's just terrible. What is WRONG w/ people?! I'm proud of you though, for moving on!!! Not easy, but worth it!

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  15. This is just a set back- a crappy set back- and I wish it had never happened to you. But this asshat is going to get what he deserves soon enough, don't you worry.

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  16. Ugh, what a jerk! He obviously wasn't right for if he pulled something like this! Like you said, move on. There's someone out there looking for someone just like you :)

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  17. Noooo Ellie! I'm so shocked to read this. What a complete and utter bastard, you poor thing having to go through this. Just remember that with strength you will be able to move on - it will be hard but I promise you you can do it! Thoughts with you and sending you a virtual hug from England xx

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  18. He is absolutely the scum of the earth. What he did was so extremely low, I still can't even explain how much hurt he's caused. But yes! Moving on!! No more time to waste on him!

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  19. Absolutely ridiculous. I would LOVE to slash his tired and bash his truck all to freaking pieces. I'll keep ya posted whenever I have a free night to do so ;)

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  20. It can be a group activity!! Great girls night out, already planned!!

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  21. Hurt. Nothing else to describe it. But I've learned to be more careful... sucks for future guys that I date because it'll take FOREVER for anyone else to be introduced to my family!!

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  22. I would LOVE to make his life a living hell, but I know karma will be on my side if I just move forward with my life!

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  23. My reaction exactly... Love the snaps we've had together ;) brightens my day for sure. Hopefully this year will fly by and we will be hanging out in Austin before we know it!!

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  24. I have been for sure. It doesn't seem like enough though, gotta get ready for grad school now..blahhhh

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  25. Thanks for the sweet words. I would never wish this upon anyone. I'm just glad it was only a couple months instead of finding out years later!

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  26. Thank you, it seems like everyone including my family is having a hard time knowing what to say about this situation. I hope she finds out I just can't be the one to do it right now. I cannot be involved. But.. some of my friends are going to try and relay the message to her without mentioning my name.

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  27. Thanks for the sweet words. Time is all I need for sure right now.. Thanks so much for the encouragement!

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  28. Thanks girl.. No I definitely DONT need this in my life, but unfortunately..it happened. I'll heal soon.. just gotta make some time for myself.

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  29. I'm STILL in shock about it all.. Once he mentioned the girl's name I looked her profile up.. his FB never showed any information, but hers sure did! Guys are ridiculously stupid. I know everyone keeps telling me I'll find someone ..but right now.. I'd rather focus on me!!
    I believe I'm on the right track as well. I just have like random memories of words he would say to me to make me feel so loved and cared for and I can't help but think... is he saying the same to other girls? His wife? like what the hell? ..
    I could use plenty of hugs!! Love you <3

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  30. I don't know.. I just can't help but ask WHY?! Why the hell? seriously.. ugh. Thanks girl. It is extremely hard right now especially..trying to explain it all to every damn person he met.. ugh sucks. Love you <3

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  31. "asshat" hahahahhahaha ..my new favorite name for him. Yeah a pretty big setback.. sucks lol but I'm sure he'll get what he deserves eventually!!

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  32. Jerkkkkkkk for sure! He is dangerous.. if he's able to lie like he did with me and my family, I'm scared to know what else he's capable of. Thanks girl!!

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  33. I'm still in shock too dear :( Thanks sooooo much. England hugs from you are the best :)

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  34. Krista KetterhagenAugust 18, 2014 at 11:11 AM

    Aww me too! They've been hilarious! Nothing like girl time, even if we are thousands of miles away from each other. Austin better watch out, because it's about to be on!

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