I think it's time for me to take a break from the dating site. But I still have plenty of stories to share from previous experiences.
Being stood up a total of 3 times in one weekend can really put a damper on your self-esteem and emotions. It's hard being a single lady with guys promising these fantastic dates and getting all excited about that free meal and movie, just to have your excitement torn apart by them not following through.
-long post ahead - my weekend in detail:
Date planned with a guy who I wasn't exactly excited about meeting, but he also knew that I was hesitant with him because he has 3 children, by 2 different mothers. . .I was straight up with him about the fact that I wasn't necessarily comfortable with this situation. He INSISTED that we go out on a date. He really really really wanted to meet me, or so I thought. Met at Texas Roadhouse at 7, I texted him told him I was there...
We both have the iPhone and his read receipts were on, so I knew with every message I sent him he read almost immediately after I sent them.
"I'm here" - read at 7:02 p.m.
"Can't wait to see you!" - read at 7:10 p.m.
"Let me know when you're close" - read at 7:18 p.m.
"Everything okay?" - read at 7:24 p.m.
- By 7:30 I realized he wasn't coming. So, I went home - and not going to lie - picked up some Mike's Cranberry Lemonade to take with me.
Really really really really like this guy, but he wasn't available to hang out until really late because he was hanging out with some guy friends because his buddy is getting married next weekend. He knew I was stood up the night before, but good news - we did get to meet!
I did something really dangerous and let him come see me at my apt, because I had been drinking (Mikes of course) and it wasn't the best idea to meet him somewhere at midnight. I had let my friend who lived close by know what was happening and had my call 911 text ready to go before he pulled in just in case! When he got there I was soooo happy to see him, he was just like his pictures and soooo adorable. I couldn't take my eyes off of him. He gave me a hug and smelled good (PLUS!). So we sat on the couch and watched tv & talked for a couple hours, but he was kind of distant (as in 2 couch cushions away), so I wasn't sure if he was interested or not. So he decided it was time for him to leave because he had to be up at 8 a.m. to take his roommate (who doesn't have a car) to work, and we were nearing 4:30 a.m.
Before he left, another hug :) and he said, "I'll get up with you tomorrow okay?" - cue the massive idiotic smile. So I go to bed thinking, YAY I get to see him tomorrow I'm so excited!
So I wake up pretty early considering I had only slept for about 5 hours. It's a GORGEOUS day so I take a shower go ahead and put makeup on because if he wakes up and wants to hang out- I wanna be ready to go! The sun is out and hitting my porch at the perfect angle so I put on a tank and short shorts and go lay out in the sun! Have a great romance novel in my hands and Pandora blaring :) 1:00 p.m. rolls around and I figure maybe he's awake now. I'll text him . . . "Good morning sunshine!" I wasn't expecting an immediate response so I just continue enjoying my day with the sun, a book, and my music. 2:30 p.m. arrives so I send him another text, "You should wake up ;) Just sayin..."
He sends one a little later sayin "I don't wanna :("
"Yeah you do! :)" - me
So I go about my day, go to the grocery store, typical Sunday. Clean the apt up a bit. and I'm texting a guy friend who I decided to give a second chance after he stood me up a couple weeks ago.
(Back story- we went on about 3 dates and were getting really close, but kind of in the same situation as the douche from Friday night. 4th date planned he stood me up and kept reading my texts then claimed by 9 p.m. that he was just getting to his phone. )
But he really wanted another chance so I gave him one. He wanted me to come see his new apartment (He lives about 30 mins away from me). I figured since the cutie from the night before wasn't going out of his way to see me, why not. So I agree to come see him. I know which exit to take but I hadn't gotten his address yet.
"Let me know when you're about to leave :) " - him
"Okay give me til about 5:00 p.m. and I'll be on my way!" - me
"Okay :)" - him
"Alright I'm leaving! Gotta drop off a redbox then I'll be getting on the interstate! Text me your address" - me
I call him - no answer
"Hang on Landlord's here" - him ( 5:05 p.m.)
"Oh okay, is everything alright?"
"Yeah she's looking at a water spot in the other room" - him
"Well what's your address?" - me
"I'm on the interstate, I don't know where to go!" - me
"Idk where to go?" - me
- I call him again - no answer. . . again
"Your landlord has been there for over an hour now...really? On a Sunday? I'm not stupid." - me
"I'm going back now" - me
"We're waiting on maintenance to bring the wet vac thing to suck up the water in the room" - him
"I'm already on my way back home" - me
"Sorry" - him
"One simple text - is that too much to ask for?! This isn't going to work (his name) - good luck to you" - me
- read at 6:03 p.m.
no response. . . douche
So on my way back I text cutie from the night before (i'm not in a very good mood at this point but maybe he can change that)
Haven't heard from him since..
It'd be nice to have someone actually follow through with what they say to you, ya know?
Anyway, I'm not going to get myself down any more about it. Just gotta take a break from the dating stuff for a bit, because all of this playing games and crap. It's no fun!
Guys: follow through.